Niçin masallar kostak prensin prensesi öpmesiyle, “evlenip sonsuza derece mesut yaşadılar” ifadesiyle son bulur?
Eğitim hayatını noktalamış, çalışma hayatı da olmayan genç kızların annelerini bir nebze de olsa anlıyorum. Kızları için koyabilecekleri tek hedef evlilik oluyor çoğu zaman. Ama aynı telaşı kızları yüksek lisans yapmış, iyi bir şirkette yönetici olan annelerde de görmek beni daha çok şaşırtıyor doğrusu.
Evlilik öncelikle annelerin çocukları için koydukları hedef. Tamam, dünya gözüyle çocuklarına karşı görevlerini tamamlasınlar istiyorlar, evladı yuvasını kursun mutlu olsun istiyorlar, hepsi çok güzel de, evlenince de bitmiyor ki baskılar. Daha düğünün ertesi günü torun siparişleri, hadi ilk torunu verdiniz kucaklarına, sonrasında toruna kardeş gerek baskıları…
Velhasıl, özellikle kız çocukları evlenmek üzere şartlandırılmış büyütülüyor. Erkek anneleri biraz daha rahat bu konuda. Önce aman bir kıza kendini kaptırıp okuluna mani olmasın diye gözlerinin içine bakıyorlar oğullarının… Hoş sanki kızlar da ileride eş seçecekleri delikanlıları okuldan koparma gayretinde! Ne zaman oğullarının yaşı ilerliyor, o zamana kadar kızlardan korumaya çalıştıkları oğullarına sülalece kız bakmaya başlıyorlar, eyvah bu çocuk ne zaman evlenecek diye…
Dediğim gibi erkekler en azından daha ileriki yaşlarda baskı görmeye başladıklarından, kızlardan biraz daha şanslılar. Kızlar doğumdan itibaren evlilik, çeyiz, çoluk çocuk muhabbetlerine maruz kalıyorlar. Hatta annelerin, kızlarına özel özlü sözleri bile mevcut “Canı sıkılan kızların canı evlenmek istermiş” Hiç bu özlü sözlerin erkek versiyonunu duydunuz mu acaba?
Annelere bu kadar yüklenmeyelim haydi, bana göre bir diğer suçlu masallar. Kız ve erkek çocukların masalları bile farklı. Erkek çocuklara kurşun askerler, hadi bilemediniz kırmızı başlıklı kız masalları anlatılırken kız çocuklarına anlattığımız masallara bakın bir de. Pamuk Prenses, Cindrella, Uyuyan Güzel vs. Hepsinde prenses yakışıklı prensle evlenir ve ömür boyu mutlu yaşarlar. Sanki mutluluğun tek şartı evlilik ve evlenince hep mutlu son oluyor. Bir tane de masal yok evlenince başlayan, yakışıklı prensin evlendikten sonra prenslikle alakası olmadığını keşfeden ve mutluluğun evliliğe endeksli olmadığını anlatan…
Şikâyet edip durmamın nedeni evliliğe tepki değil elbette. Tepkim çocukların, gençlerin evliliğe şartlı ve mutluluğun evliliğe bağlı yetiştirilmesine. Özellikle kızların evlilik eşittir başarı olarak görmesine sebebiyet veren yetiştirme şekline. Tamam, evlilik, doğru insanı bulabildiyseniz çok güzel ve çok huzurlu. Ama öyle çok kadın var ki, kendini evlenemediği (!) için son derece yetersiz hisseden ve özgüveni zedelenen, ya da sırf evlenebilmek için yanlış kişi olduğunu bile bile imza atan. Prensini bulmak için, gölde öpülmedik kurbağa bırakmayan ve bir sürü yanlış ve kendine göre tamamlanmamış ilişkiler sonucunda depresyon yaşayan. Mutsuz olduğu halde, evli kalmak uğruna bin türlü eziyete katlanan.
Şunu artık anlamamız ve çocuklarımıza da öğretmemiz lazım; Evlilik hayatımız için bir renk; bir şart değil. Mutluluğumuz bir başkasına ya da evliliğe endeksli hiç değil. Biz kendi içimizde mutlu olmayı bilmezsek, hiçbir evlilik bizi mutlu etmeye yeterli değil. Evlilik tozpembe bir masal değil. Mutlu evlilik için sadece yakışıklı prensler yeterli değil. Biz kendimize prensesler gibi bakmadıkça, karşımıza çıkacak insan da prens değil.
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All right. Well, take care yourself. I guess that’s what you’re best, presence old master? A tremor in the Force. The last time felt it was in the presence of my old master. I have traced the Rebel spies to her. Now she is my only link to finding their secret base. A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master.
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. I can’t get involved! I’ve got work to do! It’s not that I like the Empire, I hate it, but there’s nothing I can do about it right now. It’s such a long way from here. I call it luck. You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away!
Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.
The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. Leave that to me. Send a distress signal, and inform the Senate that all on board were killed. Red Five standing by.
I find your lack of faith disturbing. A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master. Hey, Luke! May the Force be with you. Red Five standing by. Red Five standing by. Your eyes can deceive you. Don’t trust them.
Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid. I find your lack of faith disturbing. The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. As you wish.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. In my experience, there is no such thing as luck. Red Five standing by.
Thanks for looking at our theme.
I need your help, Luke. She needs your help. I’m getting too old for this sort of thing. Oh God, my uncle. How am I ever gonna explain this? As you wish. Escape is not his plan. I must face him, alone. You mean it controls your actions?
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. Ye-ha! The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands.
Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid. I find your lack of faith disturbing.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. As you wish.
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. Ye-ha! The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. In my experience, there is no such thing as luck. Red Five standing by.
I need your help, Luke. She needs your help. I’m getting too old for this sort of thing. Oh God, my uncle.
A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master. I have traced the Rebel spies to her. Now she is my only link to finding their secret base. Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him.
I need your help, Luke. She needs your help. I’m getting too old for this sort of thing. Red Five standing by. Don’t be too proud of this technological terror you’ve constructed. The ability to destroy a planet is insignificant next to the power of the Force. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands.
All right. Well, take care of yourself, Han. I guess that’s what you’re best at, ain’t it? A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master. I have traced the Rebel spies to her. Now she is my only link to finding their secret base. A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master.
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. I can’t get involved! I’ve got work to do! It’s not that I like the Empire, I hate it, but there’s nothing I can do about it right now. It’s such a long way from here. I call it luck. You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away!
Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid. I find your lack of faith disturbing. The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. As you wish.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. In my experience, there is no such thing as luck. Red Five standing by.
You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away! Red Five standing by. All right. Well, take care of yourself, Han. I guess that’s what you’re best at, ain’t it? Alderaan? I’m not going to Alderaan. I’ve got to go home. It’s late, I’m in for it as it is.
Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.
You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away! Still, she’s got a lot of spirit. I don’t know, what do you think? A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master.Escape is not his plan. I must face him, alone. Oh God, my uncle. How am I ever gonna explain this? I find your lack of faith disturbing.
Still, she’s got a lot of spirit. I don’t know, what do you think? In my experience, there is no such thing as luck.
Oh God, my uncle. How am I ever gonna explain this? Hey, Luke! May the Force be with you. I find your lack of faith disturbing.
All right. Well, take care yourself. I guess that’s what you’re best, presence old master? A tremor in the Force. The last time felt it was in the presence of my old master. I have traced the Rebel spies to her. Now she is my only link to finding their secret base. A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master.
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. I can’t get involved! I’ve got work to do! It’s not that I like the Empire, I hate it, but there’s nothing I can do about it right now. It’s such a long way from here. I call it luck. You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away!
Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.
The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. Leave that to me. Send a distress signal, and inform the Senate that all on board were killed. Red Five standing by.
I find your lack of faith disturbing. A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master. Hey, Luke! May the Force be with you. Red Five standing by. Red Five standing by. Your eyes can deceive you. Don’t trust them.
Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid. I find your lack of faith disturbing. The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. As you wish.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. In my experience, there is no such thing as luck. Red Five standing by.
Thanks for looking at our theme.
I need your help, Luke. She needs your help. I’m getting too old for this sort of thing. Oh God, my uncle. How am I ever gonna explain this? As you wish. Escape is not his plan. I must face him, alone. You mean it controls your actions?
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. Ye-ha! The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands.
Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid. I find your lack of faith disturbing.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. As you wish.
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. Ye-ha! The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. In my experience, there is no such thing as luck. Red Five standing by.
I need your help, Luke. She needs your help. I’m getting too old for this sort of thing. Oh God, my uncle.
A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master. I have traced the Rebel spies to her. Now she is my only link to finding their secret base. Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him.
I need your help, Luke. She needs your help. I’m getting too old for this sort of thing. Red Five standing by. Don’t be too proud of this technological terror you’ve constructed. The ability to destroy a planet is insignificant next to the power of the Force. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands.
All right. Well, take care of yourself, Han. I guess that’s what you’re best at, ain’t it? A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master. I have traced the Rebel spies to her. Now she is my only link to finding their secret base. A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master.
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. I can’t get involved! I’ve got work to do! It’s not that I like the Empire, I hate it, but there’s nothing I can do about it right now. It’s such a long way from here. I call it luck. You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away!
Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid. I find your lack of faith disturbing. The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. As you wish.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. In my experience, there is no such thing as luck. Red Five standing by.
You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away! Red Five standing by. All right. Well, take care of yourself, Han. I guess that’s what you’re best at, ain’t it? Alderaan? I’m not going to Alderaan. I’ve got to go home. It’s late, I’m in for it as it is.
Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.
You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away! Still, she’s got a lot of spirit. I don’t know, what do you think? A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master.Escape is not his plan. I must face him, alone. Oh God, my uncle. How am I ever gonna explain this? I find your lack of faith disturbing.
Still, she’s got a lot of spirit. I don’t know, what do you think? In my experience, there is no such thing as luck.
Oh God, my uncle. How am I ever gonna explain this? Hey, Luke! May the Force be with you. I find your lack of faith disturbing.
All right. Well, take care yourself. I guess that’s what you’re best, presence old master? A tremor in the Force. The last time felt it was in the presence of my old master. I have traced the Rebel spies to her. Now she is my only link to finding their secret base. A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master.
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. I can’t get involved! I’ve got work to do! It’s not that I like the Empire, I hate it, but there’s nothing I can do about it right now. It’s such a long way from here. I call it luck. You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away!
Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.
The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. Leave that to me. Send a distress signal, and inform the Senate that all on board were killed. Red Five standing by.
I find your lack of faith disturbing. A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master. Hey, Luke! May the Force be with you. Red Five standing by. Red Five standing by. Your eyes can deceive you. Don’t trust them.
Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid. I find your lack of faith disturbing. The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. As you wish.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. In my experience, there is no such thing as luck. Red Five standing by.
Thanks for looking at our theme.
I need your help, Luke. She needs your help. I’m getting too old for this sort of thing. Oh God, my uncle. How am I ever gonna explain this? As you wish. Escape is not his plan. I must face him, alone. You mean it controls your actions?
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. Ye-ha! The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands.
Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid. I find your lack of faith disturbing.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. As you wish.
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. Ye-ha! The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. In my experience, there is no such thing as luck. Red Five standing by.
I need your help, Luke. She needs your help. I’m getting too old for this sort of thing. Oh God, my uncle.
A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master. I have traced the Rebel spies to her. Now she is my only link to finding their secret base. Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him.
I need your help, Luke. She needs your help. I’m getting too old for this sort of thing. Red Five standing by. Don’t be too proud of this technological terror you’ve constructed. The ability to destroy a planet is insignificant next to the power of the Force. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands.
All right. Well, take care of yourself, Han. I guess that’s what you’re best at, ain’t it? A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master. I have traced the Rebel spies to her. Now she is my only link to finding their secret base. A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master.
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. I can’t get involved! I’ve got work to do! It’s not that I like the Empire, I hate it, but there’s nothing I can do about it right now. It’s such a long way from here. I call it luck. You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away!
Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid. I find your lack of faith disturbing. The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. As you wish.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. In my experience, there is no such thing as luck. Red Five standing by.
You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away! Red Five standing by. All right. Well, take care of yourself, Han. I guess that’s what you’re best at, ain’t it? Alderaan? I’m not going to Alderaan. I’ve got to go home. It’s late, I’m in for it as it is.
Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.
You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away! Still, she’s got a lot of spirit. I don’t know, what do you think? A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master.Escape is not his plan. I must face him, alone. Oh God, my uncle. How am I ever gonna explain this? I find your lack of faith disturbing.
Still, she’s got a lot of spirit. I don’t know, what do you think? In my experience, there is no such thing as luck.
Oh God, my uncle. How am I ever gonna explain this? Hey, Luke! May the Force be with you. I find your lack of faith disturbing.
All right. Well, take care yourself. I guess that’s what you’re best, presence old master? A tremor in the Force. The last time felt it was in the presence of my old master. I have traced the Rebel spies to her. Now she is my only link to finding their secret base. A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master.
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. I can’t get involved! I’ve got work to do! It’s not that I like the Empire, I hate it, but there’s nothing I can do about it right now. It’s such a long way from here. I call it luck. You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away!
Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.
The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. Leave that to me. Send a distress signal, and inform the Senate that all on board were killed. Red Five standing by.
I find your lack of faith disturbing. A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master. Hey, Luke! May the Force be with you. Red Five standing by. Red Five standing by. Your eyes can deceive you. Don’t trust them.
Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid. I find your lack of faith disturbing. The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. As you wish.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. In my experience, there is no such thing as luck. Red Five standing by.
Thanks for looking at our theme.
I need your help, Luke. She needs your help. I’m getting too old for this sort of thing. Oh God, my uncle. How am I ever gonna explain this? As you wish. Escape is not his plan. I must face him, alone. You mean it controls your actions?
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. Ye-ha! The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands.
Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid. I find your lack of faith disturbing.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. As you wish.
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. Ye-ha! The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. In my experience, there is no such thing as luck. Red Five standing by.
I need your help, Luke. She needs your help. I’m getting too old for this sort of thing. Oh God, my uncle.
A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master. I have traced the Rebel spies to her. Now she is my only link to finding their secret base. Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him.
I need your help, Luke. She needs your help. I’m getting too old for this sort of thing. Red Five standing by. Don’t be too proud of this technological terror you’ve constructed. The ability to destroy a planet is insignificant next to the power of the Force. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands. The plans you refer to will soon be back in our hands.
All right. Well, take care of yourself, Han. I guess that’s what you’re best at, ain’t it? A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master. I have traced the Rebel spies to her. Now she is my only link to finding their secret base. A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master.
Remember, a Jedi can feel the Force flowing through him. I can’t get involved! I’ve got work to do! It’s not that I like the Empire, I hate it, but there’s nothing I can do about it right now. It’s such a long way from here. I call it luck. You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away!
Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid. I find your lack of faith disturbing. The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. As you wish.
The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers. In my experience, there is no such thing as luck. Red Five standing by.
You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away! Red Five standing by. All right. Well, take care of yourself, Han. I guess that’s what you’re best at, ain’t it? Alderaan? I’m not going to Alderaan. I’ve got to go home. It’s late, I’m in for it as it is.
Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.
You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor! Take her away! Still, she’s got a lot of spirit. I don’t know, what do you think? A tremor in the Force. The last time I felt it was in the presence of my old master.Escape is not his plan. I must face him, alone. Oh God, my uncle. How am I ever gonna explain this? I find your lack of faith disturbing.
Still, she’s got a lot of spirit. I don’t know, what do you think? In my experience, there is no such thing as luck.
Oh God, my uncle. How am I ever gonna explain this? Hey, Luke! May the Force be with you. I find your lack of faith disturbing.
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